Aliyah MooreSex Educator & Writer
Helping you embrace & discover your TRUE SELF.
Hi there! I’m Aliyah (she/her)!
I’ve been working with and actively listening to people who are struggling with their sexuality and intimacy. To this day, sexual minority issues are vast, and the experiences of queer people of color are still misunderstood.
I want to help and spread awareness of the sexual struggles these individuals face every day.
What’s your story? Let’s talk.
I’m at a point in my life where I can confidently say that I’m a proud Black, bisexual femme. PERIODT.
It was NOT an easy journey.
I grew up in a family with traditional Christian values. That’s synonymous with:
- “no, we’re not allowed to talk about sex in this house.”
- “Sex before marriage is a sin.”
- “Homosexual acts are morally unacceptable.”
Really, I can go on and on.
Then, my parents sent me to a Catholic private school. I was the only Black girl in class. When I looked at my fellow Black friends, I often felt like I was not black enough.
I felt like I didn’t belong anywhere—my skin was either too dark or too light, my hair too puffy or not kinky enough.
I found comfort in listening to angsty punk rock songs. I clung to every word my fave artists sang. How can they be so comfortable in their skin and honest with their feelings while I can’t?
I never had someone to talk to about my experiences at school.
My primary and middle school years were a blur. Then, come my high school years, I became a rebellious teen. I was in and out of different relationships with a few so-called “macho” men. But I was never happy.
Then I met B.
She was different, very easy to talk to. We got along quite well. She listened to me. She understood me.
I fell in love. We fell in love. I tried to hide what I felt, tried to understand it.
“What’s wrong with me? This isn’t what I was taught.”
Then I remember my father’s booming voice, “Aliyah, that’s unacceptable!”
Keeping all I felt to myself was hard. Being Black is one thing, but being Black and queer is another thing. I have read a lot of stories of discrimination against queer people of color.
Sadly, B transferred school, which left me all alone and more confused than ever.
I looked at my life and every aspect of it that didn’t feel right. But my relationship with B, albeit short, was the exact opposite.
I decided not to hide what I was feeling anymore and came out to my family.
Yup, I could still remember that part of my life vividly—
- full of tears,
- and anguish.
I felt completely drained after telling my family everything.
It took a couple of years and many painful talks until my family accepted who I am. However, I felt rejuvenated and empowered after all that.
There were a lot of painful twists and turns in my journey, but it was truly transformative. In it, I found a renewed desire to succeed and a passion for helping others.
But that’s my story, and that’s only one story.
I know it’s challenging for queer people of color to come out and open up about themselves. There’s still a lot of experiences and identities in this community that we need to recognize.
That’s why I want to help others speak up and face the hardships of embracing their true selves and sexuality.
With the mission to spread awareness and elevate the voices of the minority, I signed up for the Gender & Sexuality program at the University of Arizona. I then earned my Ph.D. in 2017.
I believe that we, queer people of color, deserve a safe space in the sexual wellness industry.
But, unfortunately, sexual issues that affect minority groups are still rampant.
I want to change that.
As part of the minority, I want our voices to be heard. I want to hear your story.
Finding yourself and your pleasures don’t have to be difficult. I’m here to help you break through the barriers so you can be empowered to live your best life and experience MOORE pleasure inside and outside of the bedroom.
I advocate for:
BIPOC - Black, Indigenous, People of Color
BAME - Black, Asian and Minority Ethnic
Poly, graysexuality and kink communities
LGBTQ+ - Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, Queer
+ is an all-encompassing representation of sexual orientations and gender identities.
Hope is there, people are coming out & speaking up:
I think this GenderBread Person the best explains the complexities we need to navigate as we strive to clarify our identity, expression & orientation.
…and I say it as a proud black queer femme & non-monogamous leathergirl.
I will help you to:
- Deal with trauma
- Unlearn shame
- Understand what sex life & relationships you want (and how to get it)
A Few Examples:
Common examples of microaggressions people face:
- “Are you actually queer?”
- “So your family must be really homophobic/biphobic/transphobic right?”
- “You don’t act like a normal QTIPOC”
- “You speak so articulately!”
- “So what are you?”
Statistics in trauma in the LGBTQ+ Community:
- In 2018 Stonewall research revealed that 51 per cent of BAME LGBT people reported having experienced racism in the LGBT community. This number rises to 61 per cent for black LGBT people.
- Stonewall reported in 2018 that there was a high level of hostility and unfair treatment faced by LGBT people when accessing healthcare services. One in five BAME LGBT people have experienced unequal treatment from healthcare staff because they are LGBT, compared to one in eight LGBT people.
- 30% attempted suicide, and of those 67% report the attempt was related to their gender identity.
Other Common Experiences
- Losing friends, family, jobs
- Fear of violence, lack of safety
- Not having access to social support systems or positive role models.